Safety & Dating Tips

We recommend reading the tips below for a safe and enjoyable time on Veggie Romance.

Using Veggie Romance

  • Don't give out any details about yourself (especially contact details) until you feel comfortable in doing so.
  • Initially communicate through Veggie Romance
  • Take your time. Don't rush into anything.
  • You're under no obligation to meet anyone or reveal anything you don't want to. If you feel you're being rushed by another Member then slow it down or walk away.
  • If you feel concerned by anything walk away and let us know of anything you think is odd or unpleasant.
  • If you are suspicious of anything a person says, inconsistencies, reticence, anything at all that makes you unsure then don't continue the dialogue.
  • Be wary of anybody who asks for money (e.g. to travel to visit you). This is likely to be a scam, someone out to exploit you for money. Genuine people do not ask for bank account details or money. Contact us if you think you may have received messages from someone whose motives you question or whom you believe to be seeking your contact / bank details for fraudulent purposes.
  • Ask for a photo - photos can reveal a lot. If the person you're communicating with is unwilling to let you see a photo as yourself why.
  • Don't be led into anything against your better judgement. Online dating can be flirtatious - but you're under no pressure or obligation to do anything you don't want to do.
  • If your suspicions are aroused by anything at all (e.g. questions you ask going unanswered, odd communications, suspicions the person may have a partner or is lying about their details etc.) stop communicating with them and let us know.
  • Before arranging to meet chat on the phone. But don't give out your number(s) until you feel comfortable doing so.
  • Ask friends what they think, don't be shy to ask for a second opinion.

Meeting up

If you arrange to meet somebody through the site exercise the same caution as you would on any date. Be sensible and trust your instincts. Use your judgement and be responsible.
  • Meet in a public place.
  • Tell friends where you are going.
  • Take a mobile phone (check it's charged and has credit) with you.
  • Do not pass on any contact information (e.g. your home phone number or your address) unless & until you feel comfortable doing so. Remember - your contact information is your business.
  • If your date presses you for this information walk away. By going on a date you are under no obligations to reveal more than you choose.
  • If, for any reason, you feel uncomfortable during the date then leave.
  • Guard your drink to ensure that it is not spiked. If you're concerned, make sure you get your own drinks.
  • Treat your date with respect. If you feel you don't click it's better to let them know (even if it's a made-up excuse) rather than getting your a coat and doing a runner without telling them.
  • If your date is not keen on meeting again please don't feel that you've been rejected. Different people look for different things. There are more people on the site! You may not meet the right person on your first date.

Tips for the Date

Remember, you're not meeting a total stranger! Chatting online can be a great way to get to know another person, and allows you to establish common ground easily. This can cut out a lot of the usual fears associated with first dates and you should have plenty to talk about. Hopefully the ice is already broken.


  • Leave plenty of time for your journey. If you're nervous, you could find you've missed your stop or taken a wrong turn en route, and arriving late will only stress you out. It can be a good idea to arrive early and perhaps spend those last few minutes occupied with something else - window shopping, nipping into the toilet of a bar or restaurant to check the mirror! or calling a friend.
  • Choose a venue that's conducive to talking. Picking the trendiest bar of the minute may do wonders for your image, but if it's likely to be too noisy or crowded to have a conversation you could be in for a night of misunderstandings and confusion.
  • Be yourself. You'll feel uncomfortable if you try to put on a false impression, so make a mental checklist of your best qualities and flaunt them to the max!
  • Maintain good eye contact - but don't stare!
  • Think about your bodylanguage - crossed arms and legs seem defensive and send out a negative vibe.
  • Listen to what your date's saying, find out about them, ask questions (but don't interrogate!).


  • Allow friends to "check up" on you! A date should be a chance for the two of you to get to know each other really well, and interruptions from concerned friends can be a nuisance.
  • Get filthy drunk beforehand. Your date will prefer you to come across as slightly nervous than to stink of wine or whisky.
  • Launch into a rant about your 'nightmare ex'. This sounds obvious, but it's a mistake often made, that will make you come across as a misery-guts.
  • Talk, talk talk without letting your date get a word in edgewise. Listening is just as important!

And finally...

Most of all, remember dating is all about meeting new people and having lots of fun. We can't guarantee chemistry... once you've got into the swing of it, making it happen is up to you!

We put these cautions on as a warning, but if you exercise common sense you shouldn't have any problems. And remember, you're not alone so don't be shy. This site is here to help you meet new people, so whether you take the bull by the horns and make the first approach or you sit pretty and wait for the first contact, we hope you enjoy yourselves.

Good luck from your friends at Veggie Romance!